Sunday, September 9, 2007

Two days to go

Busy days for me. I've been reading blogs, crawling through sites with a lens in the old Sherlock's way... Anyhow, I've not yet seen anything to compare with good old Wikipedia. I liked this one though. The animation makes the techniques seem, somehow, reassuring and simple. That's not true, of course.

The way I read it, it simply is a miracle how natural pregnancy occurs. So many complex processes, working together so delicately... It seems a shame to intervene and try the artificial procedures, but what choice do we poor guys and gals have?
I've read enough now. I guess I should start talking to my wife... But, you see, this is another delicate prohlem. She absolutely hates research and knowing things beforehand. She trusts in fate, and of course, in me to control everything if problems arise. You can guess how that makes me feel.

Of course, we've had the general discussion several times. It goes like this.
I'd day, 'Look, girley, this is what we're going to do. I'd like to tell you about what I've read, so that we can be prepared...'
'Well, you've read. Are you prepared?'
'Well no, but...'
'You're worried, right?'
'Yes, I guess, but...'
'Now you want to get me worried, to keep you company?'
I usually go back to reading when the conversation reaches this point.
'Ease up,' she'd say then. 'We're seing a doctor anyway. We'll know all about it in a few days.'

Guess what? I just read that oocyte retrieval happens under general anaesthesia, and I'm scared stiff. I don't know if it's true, and I know it's no big deal to most people, but I'm scared for her all the same. She'd probably laugh it off though, if I were to tell her now. I'm the worrier in the family.

I'm worried about the cost, too. I know that once you've decided, cost is the last concern - but it is a bit hefty, isn't it? As always I've got plans in place, but my plans rarely work without complications. Another ten hairs've gone gray.

PS: Thanks Frank, that's a wonderful blog. And I've met so many fabulous people since I started out here. Tracy, Heather, JJ, Kami, Kristen, Tigger, Sunny, to name a few... You people wouldn't believe how much reading your blogs help me go on. You've all been through it, been there and know about it - and we're just starting out here. Makes me feel humble, and also thankful for all of you.

5 comments:

chicklet said...

It sucks so much that cost comes into play, cuz while it shouldn't matter, it does. It weighs in, makes it harder to make that decision. If I was guaranteed a kid for that cost, I'd have no issue whatsoever paying - but I'm not. I'm given a 50/50 chance for $6000. Yeesh, appealing isn't it.

Heather said...

I'm with chicklet...If I could pay $50,000 and know that I will have a biological child with the man I love, it wouldn't be as hard of a choice as $15,000 (or more) for a 50/50 shot.

And that is only the financial cost. Not to mention emotionally and scheduling.

I haven't done IVF yet - but yes, the retrieval is done while she is under.

Reproductive Jeans said...

Money should not be a stress factor in this whole journey--we have enough on our minds!
Yes, she will be under anesthesia during the retrieval part.

Von said...

Just came across you and like your pad. Stick with us, there's a good community here to help you through it all.
Von.

Trace said...

I noticed your blog listed on the Lost & Found site...hope you don't mind if I follow along (my husband is infertile due to a birth defect & we're doing DI after trying to adopt for a year).

Yes, it is expensive, but money wasn't that much of an issue when we began our "journey". It will be so worth it if you are able to start a family.
Trace
http://1hardyswimmer.blogspot.com/